How I Confronted Depression.

Hope is what you get when you suddenly realize that a different worldview is possible.  –NT Wright

Anthony Bourdain’s death this week has gotten me thinking about how to help people who suffer from depression and mental illness. I tread lightly because I know its a subject that is misunderstood, but I have decided that I will not let fear prevent me from making my best attempt to make a difference.

Over the years, I’ve been impacted by the suicide of a few I was close to. In addition to the sense of tragic loss of life and friendship, I … more »

Goodbye to a Friend I Never Met

How does a person I’ve never met have such an effect on me due to his passing away?

Last October it was Tom Petty. Yesterday it was Anthony Bourdain.

I loved the work of both of these men. Some of Petty’s songs are indelibly etched into my subconscious brain, I probably mutter them in my sleep. For Bourdain, it was more than that.

At age 40, I began to explore the world of food as I contemplated making a drastic career change into becoming a chef and opening a restaurant. Author Michael Ruhlman became my culinary instructor and through his … more »

A Moment in Time

Its been five months since we’ve closed our doors and it still feels like grieving a death in the family. It was a loss of our daily livelihood, but it was also a loss of community, of friends that we made with employees and guests, of farmers and vendors whom we rarely see now. We pick up and carry on into a new season. And with all turning of seasons, it brings something brand new. Its not certain what that will be, but I have to believe that the best is yet to come.

Someone asked me if we would … more »

Closing December 10, 2017

I am very sad to announce the closing of bread&cup.  Our last service will be brunch this Sunday, December 10, 2017.

It has been more than a labor of love over the last 10 years.  Its been our lifestyle and our identity.  I was reluctant and uncomfortable to be called chef when we first started.   Little did I know how this endeavor would shape my life, may family and countless guests.  These are dividends that are intangible, but ever so real and meaningful.

I often referred to bread&cup as the Little Restaurant That Could.  We were an unknown startup on … more »

What is Supper Club?

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Supper Club begins today, and many are still uncertain what it is.  Let me explain.

Each week, my team and I will introduce you to a food or flavor about which you might be skeptical. The goal is to expand your understanding and appreciation of something you might otherwise overlook or ignore.  We also hope you’ll discover ideas and techniques that you can use in your cooking.

Why bother?

Why should I try to like a certain food that I know I don’t like?  Where is the sense in trying to learn to like … more »

What to do when the dream becomes a nightmare.

No one sets out to fail. The entrepreneurial dream is always to create a preferable future. The picture of that better future becomes so clearly etched in the mind, it makes the risk seem at times, non-existent.

So what do you do when that dream turns into a nightmare?

It’s the question I began to ask a year ago.

It’s been a year since I wrote anything public. It was the death of an employee that prompted me to voice my grief, and then turn silent. Little did I know that was just the beginning of the most difficult season … more »

We will miss you, Dustin

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

We discovered we lost a dear team member last night, Dustin Niemeyer.  I wrote this to my staff to help them process the loss.


Grief.

It’s the natural human experience we all undergo as a result of loss.

It’s a process as well as a feeling.

It’s coming to terms that life won’t be the same anymore.

It’s an adjustment to never being able to see, listen or simply enjoy their presence.

It’s the regret of wanting to try and help, but not having that chance.

It’s the permission to cry your eyes out.

It’s the … more »

Ecclesiastes 3:1

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Seasons change whether we like it or not.  Winter brings its darkness along with its bone-deep cold.  Summer begets its searing heat and humidity.  But both of these seasons carry anticipated activity, like snow skiing and trips to the lake.  Every season has its two sides; either half full or half empty.  It all depends on perspective.

 

A season is turning at bread&cup as we sadly say goodbye to our long time chef, Matt, and empower him toward new opportunities for growth and development.  Thus we begin our search for the next generation chef that can carry us into … more »

Act Your Age

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It’s a tiny little thing, less than an eighth inch in diameter, orange in color, with a crease across the face of one side.  It can easily be lost if dropped, so I guard it carefully because it has made a significant impact on my well-being in a short period of time

The thing to which I am referring is my dosage of hydrochlorothiazide, the medication I take to lower my blood pressure.  What it really does is reduce sodium in the blood stream and lower shortness of breath.  The domino effect from there has led to improved sleep, which … more »

August 02, 2005

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My dad passed away 11 years ago today, and I still feel the loss of the man who had a huge part of shaping my life and my character.  My first thought when I found out the news was that he would never see my restaurant that I was about to open, and that I would never see the look of delight on his face as he sat at my bar and let me slide a cold one his way.  Grief is important to experience and express, because the pain say the life mattered.  It wouldn’t hurt if it didn’t … more »